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AC/DC Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT Euphemism for pornographic.
ANAL Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.
ARTS Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
B&D Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
BBW Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.
BI Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUS A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE Unusual sexual desires
BONDAGE A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BUKAKKE A fetish where a girl, or girls, occasionally a guy, lies naked and lets, or helps guys masturbate and ejaculate over their naked bodies.
CAN ACCOMMODATE Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANING A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.


Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. The rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.
CLOSET SWINGER A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUPLE In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CULTURE Euphemism for Fetish, Arts.
ROMAN CULTURE: Sexual orgies
SWEDISH CULTURE: Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
CUNNILINGUS Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
DILDO An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION . Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
DOCILE Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
EXHIBITIONIST A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
FELLATIO Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATION Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
FUN AND GAMES Euphemism for sexual activity.
GAY A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM Gay Black Male
GENEROUS Refers to money for sex.
GROUP ROOM Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM Gay White Male
HARD CORE A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HEAD Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
HEDONIST Someone who lives for pleasure. - See Dirty-david ;)
HETEROSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
HORNY . Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure
HUNG Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR SPORTS Swinging activities in general.
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IRL In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
ISO In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
LEATHER A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.
LESBIAN A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
LTR Long Term Relationship
MARITAL AIDS Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
MATROOM Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASURE Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity
MENAGE A' TROIS Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD)
MORESOMES More than three people in a swinging interaction.
MBC Married Black Couple
MBiC Married Bisexual Couple
MWC Married White Couple
NEWCOMERS New people in swinging; First-timers
NONSMOKER Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
N.S.A. No Strings attached.
OPEN SWINGING A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party
ORGY Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.
PARTY Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHES Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
PASSIVE Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTO Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
PRO Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL SWINGER A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.
RESTRAINT Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMAN Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)
RUBBER Condom means of contraception;

sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

SAFE Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.
S.A.E. Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF Single Black Female
SBiF Single Bisexual Female
SBM Single Black Male
S&M Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLE A swinger without a partner, single or married.
SOCIAL A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SOFT SWINGING The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRS Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
STD Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
STR or STR8 or STRAIGHT Any person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity or A person who does not use drugs.
SWAPPING Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWF Single White Female
SWING MAGAZINE A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community
SWINGING Social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM Single White Male
THREESOME Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.
TICKET A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
TRIAD Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
TUBAL LIGATION Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
UTOPIAN SWINGER A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VASECTOMY Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.
VERSATILE Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
VIBRATOR Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEUR A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VWE Very Well Endowed - a very large male organ.
W/E Well Endowed - applies to the male organ - the average size is about 6" long and about 5" in girth when erect. W/E is anything greater than this.  

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